What Fuels or Dampens Your Fire? Understanding Your Sexual Desire

Understanding what turns you on—and what turns you off—is key to building fulfilling intimacy and lasting sexual connection. Sexual desire isn’t random; it’s influenced by your emotions, environment, and sense of safety.

Sexual Accelerators (Turn-ons) are the factors that increase your arousal and pleasure, before or during intimacy. Common accelerators include emotional closeness, feeling desired, playful touch, novelty, and a sense of trust and comfort with your partner.

Sexual Brakes (Turn-offs) are the things that slow or block desire—like stress, exhaustion, relationship tension, performance pressure, or feeling disconnected.

When you identify your unique sexual accelerators and brakes, you can create the conditions that fuel your fire, deepen connection, and enhance overall sexual well-being. If you would like to learn more, schedule an appointment with Katie.

— Katie Sokolik, Sexual Health Coach & Educator
Guiding individuals and couples to rediscover joy, curiosity, and confidence in their intimate lives.