Sex Re-Education Using the Pizza Model Inspired by Al Vernacchio

Core Principles
• Focus on what you want — not what you think you should want
• Stay only as long as the experience feels good
• Negotiate openly and adjust together
• Talking about intimacy becomes easier and safer

Practice Progression
1️⃣ Order a pizza together → practice naming preferences
2️⃣ Apply the same skills to date night planning
3️⃣ Explore non-sexual touch with choice and feedback
4️⃣ Transition to sexual touch with ongoing consent

Why It Works
Choice + communication = nervous system safety → connection grows

Why It Can Help

This model helps people relearn intimacy without pressure or performance. Like choosing pizza toppings, preferences are personal, flexible, and negotiable. The process builds agency, voice, and safety — which supports nervous system regulation and makes pleasure more accessible. This is especially supportive for individuals or couples reconnecting after medical treatment, life transitions, or stress.